I have noticed that a lot of people don't like their children watching the Disney movies that involve the whole prince and princess thing. From what I have heard or read, they think that it gives children the wrong idea about life, men, and the way they should act. That is gives them a false sense of reality. That these princesses had to change to make the prince happy. That is their opinion.
I, on the other hand, think they are great. I couldn't wait until Toot was old enough to watch them with me. I do not think it gives her a false sense of reality. I think it shows her that you can have your own 'happily ever after'. This is my opinion.
I don't think you should change to make someone happy but sometimes you have to change to make yourself happy. My mom always said that you know you are with a good person when that person inspires you to be a better person.
If you choose to be with an ass then you are not going to have your 'happily ever after'. If you choose to be with someone that loves and respects you and you in turn love and respect them, then you can have your 'happily ever after'. It's all in the choices you make. I believe that 100%.
At some point in our lives, we just might need to be rescued. I always joke that Benny was my 'knight in shining armor that rode in on a white horse' (he drove a white mustang when we met). Not because he rescued me from a bad situation, I did that myself, but because he helped me heal from that bad situation. One night we were riding around and out of nowhere I said to him "You are my neosporin". He knew exactly what I meant with no explanation. What I meant was that when we met, I had a lot of open wounds. Yes, they would have healed without him but because of him, they healed faster and the scars are smaller. For that, I am blessed that I met him.
And there have been times when I have 'rescued' him. We love and respect each other and would 'rescue' each other no matter what or when.
Yes, we argue and yes we bitch at each other but at the end of the day we still love and respect each other with all our hearts. Without the bad times, we wouldn't appreciate the good ones. Are we perfect? No. Are we perfect for each other? Yes.
So yes, I do believe that you can have your 'happily ever after' and I never want any of my children to think otherwise. I tell them everyday that not only do I pray they get it but that they deserve it.
Passing The Baton
2 years ago
11 comments:
Aww..April this is beautiful and a wonderful outlook on life! Your children are blessed to have a mother that loves them that much and prays for their 'happily ever afters'. I don't think there is anything wrong with the Disney movies either. Besides, it gives us an opportunity to teach 'make believe' vs. reality too! I don't know where people get the idea that we can keep kids in these little bubbles where false expectations or untruths won't touch them. Whatever.
Oh...and we all bitch and fight but still go to bed in love with our husbands...LOL!
This is one of my favorite posts by you. It's so true..."happily ever after" doesn't mean PERFECT. I really, truly believe that Stevie is my soulmate. Does that mean that he doesn't irritate the hell out of me sometimes? No, it doesn't.
As for the people up in arms over Disney movies - GET OVER IT! It's a cartoon.
Exactly!
I think you said it just right. And I love the "you are my Neosporin" comment. How true! We all need rescueing from time to time. But when you find the right person to rescue you is the best part.
Why do people have to get so worked up over stupid shit?
Ain't nothin wrong with a prince finding his princess and vice versa.
...those pictures of your kids on the left sidebar in country outfits are too adorable!
you are so right!!
I think some people look for any excuse to shelter thier kids...so afraid the big, bad world might get thme! Instead, how about just teach them some morals and to be respectful and let them figure out things for themself!
I agree 100%!!! Great post!!! But...here's something to think about. Another blogger said this once...why are there always evil Stepmothers and why is it that the mom in all of the Disney cartoons is dead? LOL!!! XOXO
We actually talked about this in undergrad for my teaching degree. They told us that these themes are "bad" because they are not politically correct anymore. In today's world little boys and little girls could grow up to want a same-sex marriage, or perhaps to not be married at all, and when it's engrained in them at a young age that they will fall in love with the opposite sex, well then that can be confusing for them in adolescence when they are figuring out their sexuality. Did that make any sense? I see your point though. And sorry to hijack your comments!
Oh April, I heart you! This was so beautiful and so true. I believe that dreams really do come true, usually not in the ways we expected them to.
What a great post April. What little girl doesn't want to be a princess and live happily ever after? No one said it had to be in a castle... or the prince had to ride a white stallion... happy is different to each one of us. I loved this post.
I actually love the prince and princess movies, and so do my girls. We also watch the Barbie movies alot too, and who cares if the girl has to be rescued by the guy, the girl is always a strong character and the stories are just so lovely. What would people prefer our kids to watch, violent cartoons with killing and destruction, which are about? Give me the happily ever after stories anyday..
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