Guest Post - By my Mom

TMM is doing it again. She wants to hear what our spouse's have to say, what they think. Well, Benny was going to write one but his weekend got cut way too short and didn't have time. Not wanting to disappoint C, I had my mom write one. Hope you enjoy. When you are done with mine go check out TMM's place because she has the Mr Linky thing up and you can read everyone else's.




April asked me to guest post today, and so I agreed, having no idea what I would talk to yall about. Then, I decided that I would talk about her! So, here is a chance to tell yall, and remind her, about our 3 favorite times that she managed to either shock us, or give us a preciously funny memory.

One day, at the age of almost 3, while sitting in the back seat between her two older brothers, in a very quiet moment we all heard this from her mouth: "prick, prick, prick!! What's a prick?" You could have heard a pin drop, followed by uproar of laughter from her brothers. They still remember that to this day, 25 years later.

At the age of 7, while at a Texas Ranger baseball game, out pops: "Mom, when was Daddy neutered." I would love to have had a picture of the face of the men around us at that moment. Reason behind the question - A few months earlier she wanted to know why she couldn't have a baby brother or sister. We just told her that Daddy had an operation so we couldn't have any more children. She was satisfied and all was well... until, the dog across the street was gone a couple days. When she asked the owner where the dog was, they answered: "he went to the vet to get neutered" What's that she asked, their reply "surgery so he can't have puppies." I guess she put two and two together, but sure did cause Daddy to have a red face.

Then the tables were turned. At the age of 14, sitting in the stands of her brother's college soccer game she very bluntly and not so quietly said "Mom, what's sodomy?" The poor man in front of us almost busted a gut trying to hold in his laughter. After I whispered the 2 word answer (b*** F***) in her ear, she then announced "See if I ever ask you a question again!" Gee, I bet she wished that she had learned that when she was 3.

Now she has little ones of her own, and I cherish the phone calls that start with "Mom, guess what Toot just said."

Hope yall have a good day and remember to cherish every memory that you are blessed with from your little ones. They will be grown before you know it, and you will miss those moments.

Random stuff

A lot happened over the weekend but I am just too tired to go into anything real detailing. So here's some randomness for ya.

I bought the rest of the Twilight books and it required me going to 3 stores. I could have just bought them all at the first store but it would have cost me an extra $25. Too bad they wont match prices.

Saturday I drove 4 hours to my brothers house to go to my nephew's 1st birthday party and then 4 hours back home. It was weird and awkward but fun. I'll post about that when I get the pictures because I got some advise to give people about it all. Long story.

Making a 8 hour trip in one day with three kids all by my self is not fun.

Sunday we taught Little Man how to drive the riding lawnmower and he loved it. That means I now don't have to mow while Benny is away. YEA!

Benny only got to spend one day at home. He left about 10 last night and wont come back for about 5 or 6 weeks. We had a great day but it was so sad to watch him leave again. Toot kept saying "Don't leave me Daddy". It was heart breaking.

Wednesday we are going down to stay with him until Monday. No internet there so I won't be online any those days.

And last, Toot made Benny watch Twilight yesterday and he actually liked it. I was kinda surprised. Afterwards, Little Man said, "That is the best movie ever!" and Toot agreed. I think my daughter is a bit obsessed with vampires now.

Hope everyone had a great weekend. I am exhausted so I don't plan on doing anything all day. Just chill with my kids and regain some energy.

It finally happened

I said I wouldn't do it. I laughed at how obsessed people got over it. I laughed at 'who' got obsessed with it. I laughed at how so many thought he was good looking. I told Benny I wouldn't even go there.

Two reasons mainly. Maybe three.

First, I don't usually follow the crowd. When people get obsessed I tend to go the other way.

Second, I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that 'tweens' everywhere were going nuts over it AND women.

Third, I haven't been into that kind of thing since I was 14 years old.

Then, my son begged for it.

So, I watched the movie. I think I did it right because I had absolutely NO expectations, there for wasn't disappointed. I was actually intrigued.

In fact, so intrigued that I went and bought the book yesterday.

And finished the book yesterday. All 498 pages.

I'm glad I watched the movie first or I would have been so disappointed in all that was left out.

Now I want the second one.

BTW, am I the last woman to read this? When I was at Wal-Mart, four different women were shocked that I hadn't read it yet and went on and on about it.

What a bad day!

Man, yesterday sucked! Quick run down.

• Wrecked my car
• Sliced my foot open and bled threw a couple of bandaids (not from the wreck, from a piece of glass in my floor).
• Benny was a sitting duck in a camper while 2 tornado's were around/heading right towards him.

I know it could have been worse. I actually was pretty lucky. The car I hit was a big piece of shit and you couldn't tell if I did any damage and what happened to my car will buff right out. The guy actually said to me "You would have to drive something a lot bigger to hurt this piece of shit." It was 100 % my fault and he was really cool about it. I'm sure it didn't hurt that I was bawling my eyes out. That is the very first time I have ever had any kind of contact with another car (with me driving). When I was 17 I side swiped a bridge. We were all OK (except my neck is killing me) and we went on our way. Thank goodness I didn't hit a bitch in a Lexus. Now that would have sucked!

My foot will heal. It's right on the ball of my foot so it hurts like a bitch when I walk. I will live though.

Benny is OK. Was really scary there for a minute but all is well.

BUT, I have awesome news.

Benny gets to come home for the weekend. Actually, he will be home tonight!!! YEA!!! Last one for over a month though.

Also, remember when I said last week I was making plans. Well, I am going to spend a weekend with Carrin in 3 1/2 weeks!!! I can't wait. I know we are going to have a blast!!! A whole weekend with no kids. WOW! I don't think I have had one of those in almost 5 years!

April needs...

I got nothing. Benny is gone (he didn't leave me, he is working a shutdown out of town). I was suppose to play golf with my dad but it rained. Life is not fun right now. I KNOW it could be worse but let me live here for a minute!

Kate did this little meme and tagged everyone that read it so I figured why not. I don't have anything else better to tell ya. And it's easy.


Google "[your first name] needs" and share the first 10 results.

1. April needs a pancreas transplant. Well, I don't think I need one but would love if my son could get one if it would cure his diabetes.


2. April needs to stay. Stay where?


3. April needs models. Ummm, OK, if you say so.


4. April needs our support, Stay At Home Moms. Actually, I have everyones support I need for being a SAHM so don't worry about it.


5. April need a 'softer' touch when she shoots. Why? I am already a better shot than anyone I know. And that's not just talking shit, I am a badass shot!


6. April needs to learn how to dress properly...drunk or not. Ya think? Was it the camo you didn't like?
Atleast I didn't paint my face. BTW, I love this picture of my mom.


7. April needs a crew. Ya, to come clean my house for me!


8. April needs Pro-Active Skincare. It's just 'that time of the month'. It will clear up on it's own but thanks anyway.


9. April needs a new home. Nah, I kinda like mine for now.
10. April needs to feel the sand beneath her feet. Now this I could go for. It's been a while.

Have a great Wednesday!

I love our yard

I love it when spring gets here. Our yard smells so good. Only bad thing is the bees. They are EVERYWHERE and by the middle of summer, you can hardly even go outside during the day because of them. Anyway, the trees and flowers are blooming and I thought I would show you a few in my yard.

This tree is covered in wisteria. Within a week, the whole tree will be purple. So pretty and smells so good. When they start to drop, this whole half of the yard is covered in purple petals. It looks really cool.

Check out the vines. The kids love climbing them and hanging from them. Also, that's my closest neighbors house in the back ground. Way to close if you ask me.

I don't know the technical name of this thing but we call it a tulip tree. The flowers on this don't last long. I don't know why.

And here is the dogwood. It's actually a yellow dogwood but for some reason they look white in the pictures. And, these flowers will drop on Easter. Happens every year.

This one had the red (blood) stains but they didn't show up real good in the picture.

It's funny, my mom loves dogwoods and wisteria but can't get them to grow on her property. I don't do anything and mine grow like crazy.

WTF

I was just messing around on the internet yesterday and came across this http://www.popeater.com/music/article/some-fans-still-support-chris-brown/389095...




If you don't feel like clicking over to it, here is the first two paragraph out of it.

"You'd think that two felony charges against a star who allegedly beat up his equally famous girlfriend would quickly deplete his female fanbase. For Chris Brown, there's still some hardcore supporters out there who refuse to believe their idol did anything wrong.

The first signs of this trend became apparent when a survey of Boston students showed that 46 percent thought Rihanna was responsible for Brown's alleged attack on her. Similar mindsets were exposed in a New York Times article titled "Teenage Girls Stand by Their Man." In the report, a Bronx ninth grader says that even after seeing the photo of bruised and bloodied Rihanna, that "she probably made him mad for him to react like that ... You know, like, bring it on?""

If you don't know what he did to her, you can see the pic here. I'm not posting it because it is so bad.

WTF!? 46%!? How can anyone think that she caused this or deserved it?! No person, woman or man, deserves to be treated like this by their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse. This made me so sad and mad.

What are we teaching our kids?

I am sure some people have said "Well, if she goes back to him then she deserves it." I hope that when someone says that, they don't really mean it and are just venting about how stupid it is for her to go back to him. Seriously though, watch what you say around your kids. They tend to take things you say literal.

If I ever heard one of my children say that she or anyone else that is a victim of domestic violence deserved it, I would flip the fuck out. Maybe because I have been there but I would like to think I would still react that way had I not gone through it.

I really hope that something changes and that people get a clue about domestic violence. Please teach your kids that it's not OK and not the victims fault. Hell, that's one reason why so many stay in that situation, they think it's their fault and not the abusers.

10 years ago

About 10 years ago I lived with my best friend from high school. She worked full time and went to school full time so she wasn't home often. When she was home, she was obsessed with this TV show.I think it was mainly because of this guy. She thought he was so hot.
I use to always make fun of her because I didn't think he was good looking and it was just fun to mess with her. She would get mad at me because I would always make fun of him. We had completely different taste in guys so it was no big surprise that I didn't think he was good looking. Our completely different taste in guys actually worked out really good because we never wanted to date the same guy.

Fast forward 10 years.


I am now obsessed with this show.
I have seen EVERY episode and get really pissed when I miss one. Thank goodness for the internet! Also, I think this guy is so HOT!Doesn't make much sense huh? Now that I have grown up some and matured, I really do see that it is what is on the inside and not so much what is on the outside that makes someone hot to me. I love this character because he is sweet, funny, rescues the girl when needed, charming, respectful, and really nice. All qualities that I find very attractive. Oh, and the fact that he is smokin' hot doesn't hurt. And he has a pretty cool belt buckle.
Pretty much all the qualities I found in my wonderful husband but Benny isn't reading from a script. He's the real deal!
I'm one lucky gal.

I use to think...

money grew on trees.

Back when I was a kid, I use to get so mad at my parents. I mean really, who didn't. I would get mad at them for things that I thought were so important. Most of the time I got mad because I wanted something and they wouldn't give it to me.

One of the main things I wanted was my own phone line. This was before everyone and their dog had cell phones. It was an pretty big deal to have your own line and I, like everyone else, wanted my own. With a family of five, chances are someone was on the phone and I didn't like that.

We (my brothers and I) got our own ring but that still wasn't good enough. It was still the same line, just different number. I actually still remember that number to this day.

I never got why it was such a big deal. I mean, they both had jobs, so how could it be such a problem. It's not like I was asking for a car. Yet. But, no matter how hard I pushed, they wouldn't budge. I just never got it while I was a child.

And then I had kids. NOW I get it. No, one phone line isn't that expensive but when you add up all the little things, they add up to a ton. My parents had soccer stuff, softball stuff, swimming stuff, cable TV, food, gas, school lunches, clothes, house pmt, electric pmt, and everything else that comes with living to pay for. I don't know how they did all what they did but now I am so grateful for it.

Ya, I use to think money grew on trees. Now I know that someone has to work their ass off for all that money that pays all the 'little' things that add up to so much. Thankfully, my wonderful husband has taken on that responsibility all himself to allow me to stay home and raise our three beautiful babies.

Now go visit MamaKat for more posts on her writing workshop.

What to do

I found out last week that my ex that is in prison, will be released on May 31st. You can read this post if you don't know what I am talking about. He was suppose to be in until 2012 but because of good behavior (and I'm sure crowded prisons) he is getting out early. He will be out on parole so he will have to check in with a parole officer until 2012. I don't think he can be good that long and will end up back in prison. I really don't think he will be able to piss clean for that long.

Here is where I am lost on what to do. I can write a letter protesting his release and ask that if he is released, he be released to a different county and not allowed to have contact with me, my family, or my friends. But here is the problem. He is not in prison because of what he did to me. It's really hard to prove stuff that's my word against his EVEN though I was covered in bruises. I know, pretty shitty huh. Anyway, if I write a letter and he does get released, then he will know I wrote the letter and be pissed at me for trying to keep him in there and I will be on his mind the minute he walks out.

I just want to put this all behind me. I don't want to have to think about it. I don't want to have to wonder if he is out and pissed at me. Not that I would normally care if someone was pissed at me but he's crazy. I don't want anymore bullets flying at my house. I live in a different house that is really hard to find now.

I don't know what I will do. I think I have about a week or two to make my decision. Benny doesn't think I should because he is so tired of this all too. We've been married for 6 years and we are still having to think about my ex. Is whats weird is that when I wrote that post the other day if was because I had a dream he was released. Then a couple of days later, I got the letter saying he would be. I actually had the dream the night that they made the decision to release him. I have received a letter every 6 months for the last two and a half years updating me on his status. I never think about him until I get that letter. We are tired of it.

What do yall think I should do?

And to end on a funny note, I gotta tell you what happened last night.

Benny, Smiley, and me were laying in bed watching a movie. Smiley has been using the potty as long as it is in the same room as him. So, the potty was in our room at the time.
He jumps up and yells "I gotta pee! Can't pee in the bed!"
Benny said, "That's right, no peeing in the bed."
Smiley then can't get the lid open on his potty and says "I'll just pee in my truck!" (It's a big Tonka dump truck that was right next to his potty.)
Benny and me jump up yelling "NO! Pee in the potty!!!!"
Benny made it to the potty before me and opened it up.
Smiley was successful.
High fives all around as I laid there under my blankets laughing my ass off. Crazy kid!